If you know me personally you know that I really believe in having mentors. However, I don’t believe your mentor has to be someone you know. Hell, your mentor doesn’t even have to be alive (most of my favorite mentors I’ve learned the most from are dead). These are called distant mentors.
Michelle Obama is one of my distant mentors. I learned so much from her when she was FLOTUS. As a black woman, having a woman like that in power made me think I could be more. It made me upgrade my dreams: I realized I was dreaming too small and aiming too low. She inspired me to DREAM. I cannot wait till she has an autobiography (I’ll also settle for a biography 😒). Here are some of the notable things I’ve learned from her so far:
1. On Empowering Oneself:
You just empower yourself with education and not just formal education; educate yourself about what is going on globally, educate yourself about issues affecting people in your country and most importantly educate yourself about YOU. You must know who you really are by becoming self-aware. It is only when you truly know yourself that you can effect change and make an impact
2. On Love:
Love is beautiful and marriage is amazing, but you should not let this come between you and your development (especially at a young age). You need to find someone that will love you for who you are and who you can become. Marrying someone who would impede your development will take you nowhere fast (and I’ve come to realize is the reason many of women don’t succeed). It’s also important that you define what “love” is to you. Realize that marriage and having a family is an option and do not allow society’s views affect your truth.
3. On Positivity:
Being hopeful about life and believing that things could change for the better is an important aspect of being successful. You should have hope that if you work hard and believe in yourself you can achieve whatever you want to achieve and be who you want to be.
Who are your mentors? What have they taught you?